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Day 1

Subject: What kind of Dad are YOU anyway?

Hi <$firstname$>,

Thanks for downloading the Special Freeview Bad Dad: 10
Keys to Regaining Trust. By special arrangement with
the author, David Perdew, we are able to send you this,
the first of a 5-part eCourse on identifying and
improving your parenting style. You'll receive the rest
of the eCourse over the next few days.

So once again, thanks so much for participating in this
incredibly important mission to improve our parents and
our kids.

Good luck and enjoy!

YOUR NAME GOES HERE

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What kind Dad are YOU anyway?
by David Perdew

There are good dads, Bad Dads, absentee dads, deadbeat
dads and. . .well. . .dads in denial.

Since you've downloaded the Special Freeview of Bad
Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust — thank you very much —
you may be one of those. Maybe you're in denial. Or
just a little confused. I sure was. For too many years,
I thought I was a good dad (and husband, but that's
another story) when, in fact, an objective observer
would have put me in the dangerously bad category.

It wasn't that I didn't love my kids — I did, and do
still, but I didn't know how to be a responsible. .
.no, make that "responsive". . .parent.

Rebuilding quality relationships with my three kids
after they went way wrong took years. Sure, everything
looked pretty good on the outside. I showed up for the
ballgames and special events at the school. We
occasionally had heart-to-heart conversations, but too
often they turned into "Dad lectures". I wasn't much
for the one-on-one support that children want. And
that's what they needed most.

That was my loss. But back to confused. . .

. . .The secret to becoming a better dad is to know who
you are and what you are. Clarity! What a freeing state
of mind. With clarity, we can accept the good and the
bad because it just is. Unfortunately for us, confusion
is the opposite.

So, what are you? Stuck for an answer? That's a bad
sign. You probably should ask someone else. Our egos,
wondrous entities they are, protect us from the truth
when it's too terrible to bear — or bare. And often,
the ego is the enemy of clarity. So we have to dismiss
it for this process. No defenses, no pride allowed.

Here's tough assignment number 1: Ask your really good
friend — someone that you trust — a few questions.
These don't have to be too specific. They're just the
grease to get the conversation going. That's the goal:
Have a conversation about your skill as a parent.

Your assignment is simple: LISTEN!

Sample questions:

1) How do others see me as a dad?
2) Do I have a close relationship with my kids?
3) Am I raising healthy kids (we didn't say trouble-
free kids!)?
4) What should I improve to be a better dad?
5) Is there something I need to stop doing immediately?
6) Is there something I need to do more of?

I've got some great news for you!

No matter what answers come your way, you can improve
your parenting skills. Whatever your issues with
fatherhood (this applies if you're a mother, too), take
heart in knowing that you've begun the process.

Change may take awhile, but it took awhile to get here.

So, what's next? Tune in tomorrow and bring a pencil
and paper. You've got some explaining to do!

Sincerely,

David Perdew

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PS: Thanks for hitchin' a ride on this journey. Sure, I
want you to buy Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust (do
it now to get that over with if you want at
http://xxxxxx.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net), but mostly I
want you to support the mission. It's huge! Here it is:
Change the World and bring Peace one Child at a Time.

More to come — thanks for being here.

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Who Else Wants to Learn the 10 Simple Keys To Saving
The Most Important Relationships In Your Life?

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Day 2

Subject: Who wants this job?

Hi <$firstname$>,

Here's part 2 of the 5-part eCourse on identifying and
improving your parenting style. It's our way of
thanking you for downloading the Special Freeview Bad
Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust.

Remember, the mission stated at the bottom of this
email is the key to why we're doing this. And the key
to why you're here.

Thanks again!

YOUR NAME GOES HERE

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Who wants this job anyway?
by David Perdew

Be honest, now. Knowing how difficult parenting is, how
much responsibility you have, how expensive kids are —
would you do it again if you could turn back the clock?

Did you answer "NO"? Or maybe just felt a wave of
"MAYBE" crossed your mind before you became so shocked
at your hesitation, you jumped to "YES".

It's okay. Don't feel guilty. We all have those moments
of doubt. Parenting is a tough job and a lifetime
commitment. If you're like most Dads, lifetime
commitment wasn't what we had in mind when we were told
a child was coming.

We pictured happy children at baseball games, little
girls in frilly dresses — a mini-me to carry on "the
legacy".

Instead, you got a kid that throws up in the middle of
the night, asks a gazillion inane questions and won't
let you have a moment's peace. You're dog-tired from
working all day and know that there's even more to do
when you get home with the kids.

Having these thoughts makes you feel like a Bad Dad!

But maybe you answered "YES" right away to the first
question. Well. . .I can only guess that you don't have
teenagers yet. Just wait till that little girl in the
frilly dress comes home with Goth make-up and a dog
collar. Then talk to me.

Let's face it. Everybody wants kids. I'm sure science
will identify a gene that pushes that button in us.

But nobody — NOBODY — wants that much responsibility.
What if you mess it up? You've damaged a kid for a
life. And now, we find out that the worst damage you
can do is back off from a kid. (See the report on
Absentee Dads if you want some scary statistics.)

You're stuck.

The ONLY solution is to do this Dad thing and do it
well. Period.

Avoidance doesn't work. Believe me. I tried that. I
chronicle the entire experience in Bad Dad: 10 Keys to
Regaining Trust (which you can get at
http://XXXXXX.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net).

All I did was alienate my kids and drive them toward my
worst fears. Sitting across from my youngest son, I
pointed out that he looked like a drug user. His orange
hair, pants four sizes too big, Starter jacket, floppy
unlaced Converse shoes, stocking cap, and scruffy beard
were good clues. He hit the ceiling because of my
"profiling".

Six months later, he was in outpatient drug rehab.

I could have prevented that by accepting my
responsibility as his father and learning — sooner
rather than later — some of the secrets I describe in
Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust.

Here's the thing: It doesn't matter how you feel about
being a Dad. If you are a Dad, you MUST try to be a
good one. Now, you just need someone to teach you the
basics.

We'll go over the basics tomorrow and you'll be shocked
how simple it is.

Sincerely,

David Perdew

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PS: Thanks for hitchin' a ride on this journey. Sure, I
want you to buy Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust (do
it now to get that over with if you want at
http://xxxxxx.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net), but mostly I
want you to support the mission. It's huge! Here it is:
Change the World and bring Peace one Child at a Time.

More to come — thanks for being here.

dp

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Who Else Wants to Learn the 10 Simple Keys To Saving
The Most Important Relationships In Your Life?

Download Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust today at
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life and the world one child at a time.

Day 3

Subject: It really is that simple!

Hi <$firstname$>,

I'm so glad to give you part 3 of the 5-part eCourse on
identifying and improving your parenting style. We're
getting to the meet now. You'll be shocked at how
practical this eCourse is — no-nonsense psycho-babble.
One recovered Bad Dad talks to you about the simple
secrets that worked in his everyday life and will work
in yours too.

Thanks for downloading the Special Freeview Bad Dad: 10
Keys to Regaining Trust. I love to hear your comments.
Send an email to me at: name@youremail.com.

Thanks again!

YOUR NAME GOES HERE

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It really is that simple!
by David Perdew

What I'm going to say may seem to simple. Although it's
not stated this simply in Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining
Trust (http://xxxxxx.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net), all of
the tips, tricks, advice and tasks boil down to these
three "L's":

Listen

Learn

Love

Oooh, that feels like some touchy-feely, weekend-
encounter session platitude. It's not. It's hard corps,
in-your-face fact. If you want to get through to your
kids to build a lasting relationship, this is the holy
grail: Listen, Learn and Love.

It's that simple.

And not. Practicing those three mean you're doing it
without judgment. Ah, there's the catch! No judgment?
Of course, judgment is good, we think. It keeps us from
doing "wrong" and even protects us from unreasonable
and potentially unsafe risks, doesn't it?

Ah, that's discernment. This is not some game of
semantics. Someone educated me about the difference
between judgment and discernment because I was
confused, too.

Judgment is about assigning right and wrong. "What
you're doing is wrong!" Or "You are just absolutely
wrong!" are two examples. How do you feel when you read
those statements? Does the word defensive come to mind?

Discernment on the other hand is about boundaries. "I
can't be around that activity because I just am not
comfortable with it." Or "That may be okay for you, but
it's just not how I was raised." Both of those
statements are about the speaker — not the spoken to.
Those statements are about boundaries that the speaker
can't cross, not about how "wrong" the other person is.
See the difference?

It's a small thing but absolutely critical to the first
"L". You can't listen effectively if you're judging.
And man, is that hard. I don't know about you, but I
was raised to be judgmental. Most of my friends are
too. Gossip is a really good indicator of how
judgmental we are.

The second "L" is just as tough.

Learn: That means we don't know. Uh-Oh. This pushes one
of my buttons, too. I'm a Dad. I'm supposed to know
what's good for my kids. I'm supposed to have the
answers. How can I be open to learning new things —
especially from my kids — if I've got all the answers?

Of course, I DO HAVE the answer to that one. Bull
Hockey!

The smartest person in the world doesn't have all the
answers. Albert Einstein, a spiritual hero of mine,
said, "The only thing that interferes with my learning
is my education." And he's about as close to Smartest
Man In The World as we'll ever see.

Being a Dad calls for humility. Humility means you
don't have the answers and are willing to learn. Add a
little humility to your parenting and your kids will
respect you more.

And the last "L" — Love. This probably needs the most
work.

Too often, the ones we love get the short end of the
stick. I was much nicer to my colleagues, friends and
distant family than I was to "the loved ones" I lived
with.

Love is not a given. It doesn't work to say "They know
I love them." That's a cop-out. Love is an action verb.
It means doing for someone else. If you love them,
you're actively showing them, not taking them for
granted.

Practice the three "L's" and you're practicing the
basic Good Parenting 101 skills.

Tomorrow, we'll cover one of the essential tips for
getting your parenting back on track.

Sincerely,

David Perdew

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PS: Thanks for hitchin' a ride on this journey. Sure, I
want you to buy Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust (do
it now to get that over with if you want at
http://xxxxxx.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net), but mostly I
want you to support the mission. It's huge! Here it is:
Change the World and bring Peace one Child at a Time.

More to come — thanks for being here.

dp

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Who Else Wants to Learn the 10 Simple Keys To Saving
The Most Important Relationships In Your Life?

Download Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust today at
http://xxxxxx.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net. Change your
life and the world one child at a time.

Day 4

Subject: Mind your own business!

Hi <$firstname$>,

I hope you're enjoying this 5-part eCourse from David
Perdew and Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust (at
http://xxxxxx.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net). His no-
nonsense style and openness about his parental roller-
coaster has me re-thinking everything I do. Today's
part 4 in the series gets straight to the point as
well.

Let me know how this eCourse has helped you. Contact me
at: name@youremail.com.

Thanks again!

YOUR NAME GOES HERE

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Mind your own business!
by David Perdew

My younger brother was a pest. Always hanging around,
like younger brothers do, trying to play baseball with
us big kids, he badgered us to explain the rules of
whatever game we played.

My standard line was, "Go mind your own business."

Oh, how I wish I had taken my own advice.

After my kids came along, the idea that I had become
responsible for everyone's well-being, safety and
behavior laid heavy on my mind. Of course, that's true,
but changing my kids was never my responsibility.

Raising them — YES!

Providing for them — ABSOLUTELY!

Changing them — NEVER!

When I hear people say that they must figure out how to
change their kids or their spouse, I smile. Because,
now, I know something they don't.

It's none of their business!

Our business, as the Great Spiritual Teachers have
proclaimed through the millennia, is taking the right
action.

Kids are great witnesses. They watch everything we do.
We forget that one of our primary jobs is to teach our
children. We do that by example. Think about it. Has
anyone ever told you that your little Johnnie or little
Susie acts just like you? In my case, I shudder when I
hear that. Nothing frightens me more.

Kids don't learn from fatherly lectures, but from
fatherly actions. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "Your
actions speak louder than words." For years, I had that
backwards. My mantra was, "Do as I say, not as I do!"

Now, my "business" is to be a role model. If I want my
children to grow up with integrity, I need to live a
life of integrity. If I want them to grow up to be
loving, supportive family members, I need to be a
loving, supportive family member. If I want them to
become good stewards of their finances, I need to
manage my own financial affairs appropriately.

Only then can I share what I know — usually because
someone respects me enough to ask for advice, not
because I need to force my way!

Remember the saying, "He didn't fall far from the
tree"? Well, our kids are part of the tree — always. No
denying it. The only way to change the fruit is to
change the tree.

That's my business!

Changing my life is changing my kids lives. And it's
never to late to start. I'm living proof of that. My
grown kids have changed so much — and for the better —
over the past 10 years because I've changed. Those
changes will carry through to my grand children. I've
already changed them — even the unborn grand children —
because I've changed. That's the way it works.

My business is the most important business on earth,
and I'm the only one who can mind it, and I can mind no
other.

Who's minding your business! And better, yet, who's
business are you minding?

Tomorrow, in the final piece of this 5-part eCourse,
we'll discuss what's really important, more or less. ..
(That's a clue by the way.)

Sincerely,

David Perdew

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PS: Thanks for hitchin' a ride on this journey. Sure, I
want you to buy Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust (do
it now to get that over with if you want at
http://xxxxxx.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net), but mostly I
want you to support the mission. It's huge! Here it is:
Change the World and bring Peace one Child at a Time.

More to come — thanks for being here.

dp

*****************************************************

Who Else Wants to Learn the 10 Simple Keys To Saving
The Most Important Relationships In Your Life?

Download Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining Trust today at
http://xxxxxx.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net. Change your
life and the world one child at a time.

Day 5

Subject: Less is more. . .and more!

Hi <$firstname$>,

Ah, parting is such sweet sorrow!

Today is the final installment in this 5-part eCourse
from David Perdew and Bad Dad: 10 Keys to Regaining
Trust (at http://xxxxxx.baddadkeys.hop.clickbank.net).

Be sure to read the PS below to continue this
conversation. And once again, contact me at:
name@youremail.com if you have any questions.

Thanks again!

YOUR NAME GOES HERE

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Less is more. . .and more!
by David Perdew

In my younger days, my checkbook became my happiness
meter.

If my balance was high, I was floating on cloud nine.
If the balance was low, I was so low I could walk under
a snake's belly.

And of course, the reason was that I couldn't "make do"
as my mother said with what I had. I wanted more. I
thought "more" was the way to live. Have more, get
more, show-off more, and waste more. Living like that
means you never have enough. Never having enough means
you're never content. And being content, my friend, now
that's happiness.

An investigative journalist wrote a book called "The
Paradox Progress: How Life Gets Better While People
Feel Worse." (http://tinyurl.com/b3dzw) He was
intrigued by the spectacular rise in per capita earning
power since 1950 — it's has tripled. Yet people are no
happier. His conclusion (am I'm paraphrasing) is that
money can't buy love, respect, family honor, or a sense
that our work has meaning.

Those are the things that make us most happy in life.
I'll repeat that one more time. . .and slowly:

* love
* respect
* family honor
* a sense that our work has meaning

Those things make us happy.

What's missing? MORE! The pursuit of more is nowhere on
that list.

Back to transforming from a Bad Dad to a Good Dad. What
do your kids want? Seldom do they come to us and ask
for more toys, more money, more house, more cars —
unless we train them to want more.

Remember back in the simple days when the toddler
played with boxes and pots and the cat's
tail...anything that piqued her curiosity.

Then we bought the Nintendo, the 10-Speed, the Barbie
Penthouse and we're off to the races. We trained those
kids to always want more. America is a "more" society.
Our economy is based on the fact that we want more.
That's why Wal-Mart is the biggest company in America.
It has more.

But our happiness is based on being content.
Demonstrate that to your kids. Okay, you can get more
AND be content with it. But more can't become all
consuming.

The result of living with and for less is that you have
time to give more of yourself to your kids. They may
not say it now, but the less you give, the more they
will demand. And sometimes, it will be in very
unpleasant ways.

In my Special Report on Absentee Dads, these statistics
stood out:

Children from a fatherless home are:

* Five times more likely to commit suicide

* Thirty-two times more likely to run away

* Twenty times more likely to have behavioral disorders

* Fourteen times more likely to commit rape (this
applies to boys)

* Nine times more likely to drop out of high school

* Ten times more likely to abuse chemical substances

* Nine times more likely to end up in a state-operated
or charitable institution

* Twenty times more likely to end up in prison for a
long period of time

Fatherless homes are defined technically as homes where
the father has no contact with the child. In reality,
many of today's children live in near-fatherless homes
when Dad shows up on Sunday for a drive-by visit.

Those kids who are five times more likely to commit
suicide or thirty-two times more likely to runaway want
more of one thing — YOU!

Pay now or pay later. And when you pay later, it always
costs. . .more!

Sincerely,

David Perdew

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